Walk away

I read an article today that I posted from psychology today titled "back off!". This article resonated much with me. I do feel that society puts a large emphasis on intimacy and relationships to the point that men/women rely on other person to "complete them" or "balance" them out.

That is a danger zone!! Danger zone for both people involved. A relationship should not be a "you complete me" situation. That person should be a best friend, partner, confidant, and lover.

When a person is looking for someone to complete them that is when emotions run rampant. Clingy. Demanding attention. Demanding too much time or simply just not understanding you need ALONE time.

Asking for alone time in a relationship should not be threatening to the other person. It gives a person a chance to regroup, think things through, and just be an individual. Many people don't understand this. Especially in the case of disagreements. Instead of arguing the hell out of something and saying things you don't mean in the heat of the moment why not walk away. Just walk the hell away. Be alone.

The other person needs to understand and should take alone time too to gain clarity of the situation. This is not a threat to your relationship.

Often, many people stay in unhappy relationships because they are comfortable. It's familiar. You've invested so many years. Whatever. That's an unhealthy situation especially if you stay and bring children into that situation. That is purely selfish! Because for lack of better words, sh*t is bound to hit the fan at some point and those poor kids are going to be the ones that suffer the most.

Have the courage to walk away. Just walk away. Noone is saying its not going to hurt or that you won't be sad. You will. But it's necessary to move on. It's an opportunity for growth, self reflection, and learning about yourself. You now know what you really want and who knows maybe years down the road you two could work things out...or maybe not but, what you had going was just not cutting it. Don't base your happiness off of someone else.

The reality is, real life is not a fairy tale, and sometimes I think we confuse the two. If you didn't get the chance to read the article I posted I have linked it below. It's worth your time!

http://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/200909/back

As always, thanks for reading and please feel free to comment.

Until next time.

-Norah