LA Night Life

Los Angeles. LA. La La Land. Whatever you like to call it.

I am a nor cal girl that recently moved to so cal. I enjoy being a part of the "night life" scene when I can. No matter where you are the club scene is essentially the same. It never changes. It will always be there. If you can't make it out one weekend or a few weekends you are not missing out on anything life changing.

However, I do find LA night life to be interesting because LA much like New York is a place where people are chasing their dreams. Almost everyone I've met is not originally from LA or Cali in general. Many people have their "day job" and then their night job is the job that is going to help them hopefully one day achieve their dream. Whether that be a singer, dancer, actor, producer ect.

Hollywood nightlife is a whole other beast on its own. Hollywood night life is where you will find the posh clubs that feel like Vegas but you are not in Vegas. Women get in no problem, men it can be a hassle if you don't have pretty ladies with you or you don't know someone that will get you in or your not dropping money on a table. When you walk in it's dark, the music is loud, beautiful lighting, nice architecture, classy go go dancers, a raised DJ booth at the front of the dance floor, the bar is packed as usual, booths everywhere, and everyone is dressed to impress.

Here you will find that people will rack up their credit cards every weekend for no special occasion buying tables located in the far back corner of the club because the ones near the dance floor are just ridiculously priced so a table in the back is better than no table at all.

All this does is attract the people that are after fame and fortune. Kevin Hart said it best in one of his stand up comedies, "stay in your lane". If you go to one of these posh Hollywood nightclubs and are acting "hollywood" when in reality you know you are not what you are presenting yourself to be then you are setting yourself up for trouble, especially the men.

Many women in LA I have noticed will buy a dream at a drop of a dime. I can't tell you how many times guys have tried to hit on me by starting the convo asking if I am a singer, model or actress. No, I'm not, but let me guess, you are a producer? haha. Ladies, don't get caught up. No shame is chasing your dream but don't let some dude sell you one in the club.

If you're out in the club spend a night just observing the dynamics that take place in the club. Often you find that the good looking girls and good looking guys never end up talking or approaching the other because both of their egos are too big. When your ego is too big it becomes fragile. A good looking guy who views himself as being a 9 or 10 a lot of times will not approach the hottest girl in the club. Why? Because he already sees all the other guys hitting on her and she has politely rejected them so he doesn't want to attempt for fear of bruising his ego. The same goes for good looking women. But, you also have to consider the fact the many women generally don't make the first move to begin with.

If you find yourself in this situation you can always gauge your bets by just trying to make eye contact with the girl you have your eyes on or just go talk to her and have a NORMAL conversation instead of hitting on her right from the start. Say something she will remember. Be different. Don't start deep conversations in the club. Keep it light and playful. I promise you will have better luck. At the very least having a convo with her.

Everyone puts up a facade to some extent especially in the beginning. Just make sure it's something you can actually keep up with. A basic example of this is if a guy takes a girl out on a date the first 2 times to Morton's then Ruth's Chris and has rented a luxury car both times and makes sure to make a point to show his gucci belt and Loui wallet on the dates and he starts to pick up that the girl is impressed by these material things. He's starts to second guess everything because she likes him for the facade he has put up but he knows he can't keep this up forever so what ends up happening? He just cuts it off. He did it to himself.

Especially in LA where everyone acts like they are balling you have to be careful. You don't want a guy or a lady wanting to spend time with you or date you because of the superficial things you own or the connections you may have. All these superficial things don't mean anything in reality. In LA it's hard for many to get passed that because it is everywhere and there is a big emphasis placed on it.

If you are in LA and go out to hit the town at night. Dress up. Talk to people. Observe. Dance. Don't take yourself too seriously. You'll have a good time.

Welcome to La la land :)

Until next time.

-Norah