Love Drunk

You go out, you meet this amazing girl/guy and you have great convo maybe even danced together. You exchange numbers and you go home and you cannot stop thinking about this person. You are infatuated. You want to know more. Is he/she really as amazing as you think they are from the short time you spent together?

So you see each other again and he/she seems perfect to you. Everything you are looking for in a guy or girl for the gentlemen out there. You hang out more often and chat here and there. You just can't seem to find one flaw about this person. This is when you know...you are love drunk. Because, lets be real. Everyone has flaws. He/she CAN'T be perfect. But when you are love drunk, hell ya they are perfect!! You think the most annoying thing is cute about them. This is when you need to stop. Take a few steps back. Slow-it-down.

Research suggests this love drunk phase can last up to 18-24 months. That is two years!! So what happens if you decided to marry this person at 6 months or 1 year? What happens after 2 years? All of a sudden all those things you thought were so cute are probably annoying now. Everything starts to become more clear. This is usually when relationships that haven't become marriages fall apart or start to hit some shaky ground. Couples start to argue more, expect more, want more. "The passion is just not there anymore". How many times have you guys heard that between your friends? Here's the thing.

Even when YOU DO find "mr. right" or "ms. right". The love drunk phase dies too. However, you still like/love the person that is left when your love drunk goggles finally come off. The annoying things about them you can deal with. You realize they aren't perfect and neither are you but their imperfections are perfect for you. Because the looks fade. We all know you can have the hottest guy and after being with him for a while he's not so dreamy anymore because of who he is. Same with women. Men, you can find the hottest, sexiest lady out there but you all know and have probably dated that girl and realize looks only get you so far. At the end of the day, when a person grows up and matures and is ready for a committed relationship he/she is looking for that person that is of course good looking (as beauty is in the eye of the beholder) but can also be his/her best friend. This is men AND women!

Someone that he/she can be romantic with and at the same time be silly and laugh with. Someone that enjoys your same hobbies. Because at 60,70,80. That is what you will be left with. Not the hot muscle man or the hot toned lady in 5 inch heels with perfect legs. It's the person on the inside. I don't want to be cheesy but, it's the truth. Are they a good hearted person? Will this person take care of you when your 75 and you fall in the bathroom and break your hip? Will they still adore you in that hospital bed, wearing a hospital gown, with your saggy butt hanging out and crack jokes with you to make you laugh just so you'll feel better even if its just for a moment? I think that is ultimately what everyone is looking for at the end of the day when all the fun/partying days are over.

The best thing you can probably do is when you are in the love drunk phase and you just can't get enough of that person. You want to see him/her all the time and spend all your free time with him/her. You need to check yourself. Take a step back. Let the passion die down a little. More often than not you will realize that he/she is not AS great as you had made them up to be in your mind. They may be a great person. Just not freaking amazing! haha.

If you really like someone I think the best way to go about it is just be their friend. Get to know them as a friend (maybe a friend with benefits for some). But that way, it's no pressure on either one of you. Just be yourself. That way you can get to know him/her in his/her natural state instead of a state of trying to impress you which often is the case when it's an official dating experience. Maybe you will learn that he/she isn't so great after all or maybe, they really are amazing and you want to take it to the next level. It just leaves your options open. Because once your lovers it's hard to just be friends but, friends can always be lovers one day or...just remain friends.

Choose wisely ;)

Until next time

-Norah