Pull The Trigger!

Pulling the trigger. I briefly talked about it in my "LA night life" blog about how when at a club or bar all the good looking guys and good looking girls are not talking to each other. Mainly because everyones egos are too big and that makes their ego more fragile when it comes to rejection.

This is not unique to just LA. This is everywhere! What's going on in all night clubs and bars or any type of gathering for a matter of fact is a whole lot of not talking!

The hottest guy in club is definitely not the one talking to all the pretty women. Usually he is standing, observing, sipping on his drink because he is scared to pull the trigger for fear of rejection.

This is not unique to men only! Women are exactly the same way. You could be the hottest girl in the club and have spotted a guy you think is good looking and may have even made eye contact with him but never talked to him because "he never made a move."

Well, let me tell you something. If you wait around to be chosen you are going to be doing A LOT of waiting. Also, you are limiting your possibilities to ONLY the ones that "make a move". That does not make any sense. Because most of the time the ones that are making "a move" are not the ones you want to be talking to.

I know the majority of all of us women have this thing about "making the first move". That we have lost some amount of value if we make the first move.  I am not telling you to leave your booth and walk across the dance floor to talk to this guy. I am just saying let him know you are interested from a far (eye contact is not enough) so that he has some confirmation that his ego won't be crushed if he approaches you. That's how you pull the trigger as a woman.

Boom! You have instantly doubled the chances of that guy you actually want to have a conversation with to initiate contact. More than likely he will.

More often than not the ball is in our court as the woman. Men go off of our queues. Especially when it comes to initiating contact. Be approachable. Look approachable. Even if your not interested don't be rude. Try to let their ego down gently (preferably with a smile) instead of being a total winch.

Make the most of your outings. You are in control of your destiny. Stop WAITING for things to happen. Things don't just happen! You didn't just happen to get your degree. You didn't just happen to get your job. You didn't just happen to get that promotion. You did something to achieve those things! It's no different when it comes to dating and relationships. Also, sitting at home doing nothing is also going to get you nowhere either. So get out! Do things! Meet people! Most importantly talk to people!

Live in the moment. Don't get ahead of yourself. You can't control the future. You can only control what is happening now. You will never get this moment back. Make the most of it and enjoy it while it lasts.

That is all.

Until next time.

-Norah